This ‘honest dating advice’ went viral because people loved it so much
People aren’t going out on dates as much as they once were for reasons we don’t need to go into here, but when things get back to normal this might come in very handy indeed.
It’s some ‘honest dating advice’ that proved very popular on Reddit because it’s so true and had lots of people saying either ‘This will come in useful …’ or ‘I wish I’d know when …’
Anyway, that’s enough from us, have a read of these top tips shared by Redditor vegankennedy.
Here it is again just in case that’s tricky to read.
1. Worry less about if they like you and more about if you even like them.
2. Rejection is not as personal as it feels. Liking someone or being liked is much more about compatibility than inherent worth
3. Stop choosing what isn’t choosing you. If it’s not mutual, why pursue it?
4. Ask yourself: Would you be friends with this person if you weren’t physically attracted to them? Be honest
5. Get clear on what you want to give in a relationship, not just what you want to receive. What unique value you bring to a partnership?
6. Know what you want form a potential partner. What are your non-negotiables? What are you flexible on? Then communicate your needs, don’t just think them.
7. Stop being shocked by repeated behaviour. For example, if someone has continuously shown you they aren’t a good texter, stop expecting them to be. Notice patterns and believe them.
8. You don’t need to be perfect to be loved. ‘Perfection’ isn’t relatable. You can’t connect to it. We all have flaws and vulnerabilities, and being able to own them is one of the most attractive things we can do. The right person will embrace the things you once felt you had to hide.
9. Your love life is one area of your life. Don’t forget to nurture the rest. Significant other aside, when you visualise coming home to a life you love, what does that look like? Get specific.
And just some of the things people said about it.
‘I like the friendship point. The base for a good relationship is always friendship You wouldn’t spend your life with someone you don’t like.’ Bluepompf
‘Ugh, I’m happily married but I wish I saw this guide in my early 20’s. More single life and time to myself would not have hurt.’ Garaquarubyline
‘I feel like #2 needs to be told to people more often, everywhere, all the time.’ haysoos2
‘Thank you…. I really needed this today.’ -businessskeleton-
The advice originally came from werenotreallystangers.com and you can find more of this sort of thing at werenotreallystrangers.com and on Instagram here.
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