Is this guy “the asshole” for making his food too spicy for his wife to share?
There’s a theory that the property of a married couple is communal – “What’s mine is yours and what’s yours is mine.” But does that extend to food? Should a man be required to share his food with his wife, no matter what? This AITA (Am I The Asshole) from Reddit hinges on that question. See what you think:
First up, I love my wife very very very much but damn does she drive crazy sometimes. I’m a big dude, I’m 6’4 and I’m always goddamned hungry. I’m a firefighter so I’m always on my feet and simply put, I just love foooooood.
My wife always eats stuff like salads and nuts but she will ALWAYS help herself to some of my food which pisses me off because it’s just the right amount of food that I want to eat but she’ll go ahead and take some.
I’ve asked her so many times to leave my food alone and she’ll get really defensive and say ‘it’s just a little babe, you’ll be fine!’ Except I’m not fine, I’m hungry. And then when I’m hungry I get hangry and I snap at everyone cuz I’m goddamned hungry!
Things came to ahead at our kids 3rd birthday party. Wife said no to cake, despite me bringing over a slice to her, so I gave that slice to my cousins kid who was on his second slice. my girl ended up eating the whole slice whilst I held the goddamn plate and then when I went to get myself some all the cake had finished.
Lately my MIL gave me the idea to just spice my food to stop my wife from taking mine, since she can’t stand spicy food. I tried that yesterday, I ordered pizza and asked my wife if she wanted one. She said no. I went ahead and got pepperoni and jalapeños, and predictably when it came she came over and got all mad because it was spicy and she couldn’t eat it.
I told her I had to take drastic measures because I’m fed up of sharing my food and she called me a selfish asshole.
Who’s TA here?
If you’re still making up your mind, here are a few of the responses:
One person had their doubts about his behaviour.
“Idk I think that’s a little dickish. I think he should just order more if he knows his wife is going to want some. She’s probably trying to watch her weight and doesn’t want the guilt of indulging by ordering her own portion but feels less bad just having one slice of op’s and leaving the rest for him.”
But many more were on his side.
The story reminded one Redditor of a F.R.I.E.N.D.S episode.