This letter to the Guardian’s ‘sexual healing’ column is the definition of peak, peak awkward
We’ve all been there – okay then, we’re guessing none of us have been there – when you’re introduced to your partner’s dad and, well, this happens, as documented by a Guardian reader’s letter to Pamela Stephenson Connolly’s ‘sexual healing’ column.
I met my girlfriend’s parents – and realised I had once slept with her father https://t.co/D6xcvuJwdm
— The Guardian (@guardian) March 12, 2019
No wonder it went madly viral, shared thousands of times and generating hundreds of comments on the Guardian’s website.
Because you and everyone else is crying out for a little bit more detail, here it is.
If you want to read the full text of Pamela’s reply, then click here, but in three words it’s ‘walk away now’.
Before you do that, here’s what the Guardian’s readers had to say.
My opinion (and I’m sure many will disagree) is that you should tell her and let her make the decision. It’s unfair on her to just walk away, it’s unfair on you for her father to expect you to (and I suspect that he’s doing so in a pathetic attempt to avoid his own guilt).
Put everything in the open, she may well understand your past, she may not, but don’t make the choice for her, she may well want to spend the rest of her life with you don’t just walk away and deny her that. MattBucks
Tell the father that you will end the relationship but only on the condition that the his daughter knows the real reason. Then see if he is still as keen on that idea. VoiceOverIP
I completely disagree with this advice. The father has absolutely no right to decide who his daughter marries, and he’s hardly got the moral high ground to go around demanding others behave the way he wants. Personally if I was the letter writer I’d take the father aside and propose that the past is the past, to forget it ever happened and both move on. No one needs to confess anything. Most people don’t admit every single sexual encounter they’ve ever had to their partners. This really needn’t be any different. Ginevra_di_Benci
You should marry your girlfriend, and reveal everything at the wedding in front of of your astonished guests. Flatulentus
And on Twitter …
Seriously, @guardian ? "I went through a bi phase and used to sleep around with pretty much everyone that came along." Being bisexual is not a phase, neither does it necessarily mean you sleep around with everyone and can't be monogamous.
— Marjolein van Rijn (@marjovanrijn) March 12, 2019
It wasn’t a journalist that wrote that though? It’s a letter from a reader. So are we saying that the person that wrote this is wrong about their own personal experience and feelings?
— Jo Norwich (@joannenorwich) March 12, 2019
Dr Tuck says, you must try and complete the treble by banging the mother. Go to the grave a legend not haunted by regret!
— Tom Tuck (@TuckThomas29) March 12, 2019
And when she asks why you're breaking up, "It's not you, it's your dad"?
— Baz D (@barryodonovan) March 12, 2019
Could it be that he fell in love with her because she reminded him of her father? Hmm even more complicated….
— Mattheos Mattheou (@dadiouis) March 12, 2019
She's got a hairy chest and leaves the seat up?
— Jim Hopping (@JimHopping) March 12, 2019
A new twist on "how's your father."
— Ian Lee Rockwell (@IanLeeRockwell) March 12, 2019
— Ryan Sampson (@MrRyanSampson) March 12, 2019