Actress Amanda Abbington shared this story and it prompted a huge response from women who had the same thing
Actress Amanda Abbington told this story about how, well, you can read it for yourself, but it’s like something straight out of the Fast Show’s ‘invisible woman’ sketch.
I made, what I thought, was a witty and interesting comment recently in the company of two men. They completely ignored me and then one of the men said exactly the same thing to his friend that I’d literally just said. It was an amazing thing to experience. I was truly ignored.
— amanda abbington (@CHIMPSINSOCKS) October 8, 2018
And it clearly struck a chord because it prompted a huge response. Here’s just a flavour of what people had to say.
You've been he-peated.
— Melanie Palmer (@princessedamame) October 8, 2018
I love this phrase!
— Simone Lively (@simiisme) October 8, 2018
Yes, but it won't catch on until a man says it.
— Matthew Barlow (@BewilderdBadger) October 8, 2018
Among the people who commented were women who had experienced something similar.
Happens to me often…to the point where a work colleague stopped me after a meeting to tell me "I know you said XYZ five minutes before our (male) boss said the same thing. I just wanted you to know I heard you."
— DR. CM Hooke #immodestwomen (@CMHooke) October 8, 2018
This has happened to me a lot. Not necessarily the witty part, to be fair, but having my ideas repeated by men before they're taken seriously. Bloody annoying.
— Oonagh (@Okeating) October 8, 2018
I can sympathise – I get that at work. I've started to loudly say 'Whooo…echo' slightly patronisingly. Makes me look petty but makes me feel better. And I don't feel so stabby.
— Gina Goldspink (@gez_g) October 8, 2018
THIS HAPPENS TO ME ALL THE TIME! In fact, I was out for lunch with 3 men last week, I cracked a joke and the guy next to me cracked it again but LOUDER! Everyone laughed. I wanted to smash his face in his clam chowder, (not a euphemism)
— Jayne Sharp (@Jaynesharp) October 8, 2018
My husband does this frequently. He frequently receives death threads due to this malfunction. By me, btw…
— WritingJokingOpinionated (@WOpinionated) October 8, 2018
I had that happen at my last job. I'd make a brilliant suggestion and it would be ignored. A guy would then say it two minutes later and everyone would immediately be praised and implemented. Demoralizing and like being invisible.
— Ingrid Adriana Orozco (@IngridAdriana) October 8, 2018
A friend and I met two men in a bar a few years ago. I made a joke and "my" guy turned to me and said (seriously) "I'll do the jokes. You just sit there and look pretty".
Two minutes later, after the moment had passed, his friend made the same joke. Was met with laughter.
— Kate (@ThisIsKateL) October 8, 2018
Why were you still sitting there two minutes later?
— Pete Davis (@nitropete) October 8, 2018
And then of course there was this.
She made, what I thought, was a witty and interesting comment recently in the company of two men. They completely ignored her and then one of the men said exactly the same thing to his friend She’d literally just said. It was an amazing thing to experience. She was truly ignored
— Jonjo O'Neill (@ONeillJonjo) October 8, 2018
Excellent work. It was actually you and @RufusHound Weird right.
— amanda abbington (@CHIMPSINSOCKS) October 8, 2018
https://twitter.com/RufusHound/status/1049355665796468736
Haven’t really read what you’ve written here but I made, what I thought was a witty and interesting comment recently in the company of two men. They completely….
— Sanjeev Bhaskar (@TVSanjeev) October 8, 2018
And if you haven’t seen or don’t remember that Fast Show sketch …
It’s a Fast Show sketch!
— Matthew Lumby (@MatthewLumby) October 8, 2018
Yes! When it happens, I always just say "Fast Show woman" to those in the know.
— Oonagh (@Okeating) October 8, 2018
